Is there a much younger person than you that you find yourself crushing on? How to Date Someone Much Older than You? Read on to Find Out!
The dos and don'ts of dating a younger person.
Find out how to approach dating and the realistic mindset you should have before taking on the hard challenge of dating someone considerably younger than you.
1. Look at what they're trying to tell you.
Thus far, your younger love interest has shown that she is receptive to all of your subtle hints. Maybe she’s flirting back, but she could just be trying to avoid an awkward situation. Put your intuition to the test and make sure you’re 100% sure she likes you before you make your move and ask her out on a date.
2. Think this through and write down your pros and cons.
Sit down and thoughtfully consider the benefits and drawbacks of continuing your newfound romance before you two rush headlong into your next adventure. Do you have any kids who are at least as old as your prospective partner?
Could your age be a deal breaker if they have young children or a high social standing? You and your partner may suffer social embarrassment and scorn. You should weigh the risks and ask yourself honestly if you feel up to the challenge.
3. Your first date should be on neutral ground.
If you’ve fallen hard for your new flame but aren’t sure if you’re ready to commit, try spending your first few dates somewhere neutral, where your date doesn’t have to worry about running into some college friends, and you don’t have to worry about running into your ex-wife, children, or colleagues.
4. Be merry.
Even if it doesn’t work out, you’ll have tried something new and gained insight from someone with a unique perspective on the world. Accept the uncertainty of the outcome and look at the shift as an opportunity.
We’ll pretend you haven’t made up your mind about dating someone younger. What specific details do you need to remember?
5. Perhaps you don't share many interests or values.
You might think, “I wasn’t born yet.” However, don’t let that dampen your spirits. You should be able to talk about kindness, how to treat people, religion, politics, and social concerns, even if you don’t have many hobbies or passions.
6. They will not share your level of intelligence, exposure, or experience.
Truth be told, this is sad. Saying something like, “But she’s intelligent beyond her years!” or “He’s incredibly mature for his age.” But even if both are true, that doesn’t make them bright. You’re with a girl who’s mature for her age, right? She’s only 18, so even if she’s as smart as you, she won’t be as good as you.
7. It won't be well received by the masses.
Although society as a whole has grown more accepting of age gaps between partners, people still tend to raise an eyebrow at a gap of more than 10 years. Are we dealing with a gold-seeker here? Did he come here in search of a cougar and some simple sex?
We’re at a loss to know what you want to discuss. Your loved ones may not tell you these things directly, but they probably think it. People’s harsh judgments and harsh hearts are a sad reality of life. Keep in mind that nobody saves the two of you who can truly understand the inner workings of your relationship.
8. Identifying your goals is essential.
One must be realistic about their goals and expectations when dating a much younger man. Do you want the sex and excitement of the young, or do you want a serious commitment? If the latter is the case, it’s important to let your potential partner know before you get in too deeply.
9. Be mature.
Having a 20-year-old girlfriend is great, but it doesn’t mean you have to start behaving like a 20-year-old. Who are you to say no to your younger girlfriend if she wants to take you clubbing? You’ve already experienced your 20s; are you sure you want to relive them? I highly doubt it. Get a kick out of your new flame, but don’t let them make you feel bad about your age.
10. Your confidence could dip.
Dating a younger person might make you feel young, vibrant, and dynamic again, or old and unimportant. Always remember that you still have something to give your partner even if you’re not as enamored with the “selfie” era as everyone else seems to be.
11. Keep it out in the open.
There’s no need to keep your relationship a secret from loved ones if you’ve successfully navigated the honeymoon phase. They could be taken aback at first, but everyone eventually adapts to new circumstances. They will learn to trust their partner the way you do after seeing that you’ve been together for a while.
Have fun with your new partner in no time if you can be patient, empathetic, and able to let your guard down and have fun. Just take things as they come, and don’t be scared to go out and try something new. Your brand-new connection has limitless potential.