Ignoring someone to get their attention is a risky but effective tactic—if done correctly. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship that’s lost its spark or a new fling where you feel taken for granted, sometimes stepping back can make them realize your worth.
But don’t just ghost—do it strategically. Here’s how.
Why Ignoring Works (Psychology Behind It)
✅ Creates scarcity – People value what they might lose.
✅ Triggers curiosity – “Why aren’t they responding?”
✅ Resets power dynamics – If you’re always available, they take you for granted.
But be careful: Overdoing it can backfire.
How to Ignore Someone to Get Their Attention
1. First, Communicate Your Needs
❌ Don’t ignore them out of nowhere.
✅ Do: Have a calm conversation first.
- •“I’ve been feeling a bit distant lately. Can we talk?”
- •If nothing changes after this, then proceed.
2. Focus on Yourself (The Slow Pullback)
✔ Reply slower (hours → days between texts).
✔ Decline invites with a vague “Busy with work!”
✔ Post about your life (gym, hobbies, friends)—not them.
Why? It shows you have a life outside them—and they’ll notice.
3. Stop Over-Giving Attention
🚫 Don’t:
- •Double-text if they don’t reply.
- •Always be the first to reach out.
- •Over-compliment or make them feel too secure.
✅ Do:
- •Match their energy (one-word texts? Reply the same).
- •Let them initiate sometimes.
4. Spark Jealousy (Subtly!)
✔ Casually mention hanging out with others (but don’t overdo it).
✔ Post a fun group pic (no need to rub it in).
Warning: Don’t fake drama—just show you’re not waiting around.
5. Be Emotionally Unpredictable
🚫 Don’t: Always be available, overly affectionate, or needy.
✅ Do:
- •Be warm sometimes, distant others (hot & cold effect).
- •Don’t always explain your mood—mystery creates intrigue.
6. Don’t Treat Them as “Special”
✔ Reply to them like you would a casual friend.
✔ No extra favors (don’t always be the one planning dates).
Why? If they feel too secure, they won’t chase.
When to STOP Ignoring Them
🛑 If they start showing real effort – Reward it!
🛑 If they pull away completely – Reassess if they’re worth it.
🛑 If you’re just playing games – Ask: Is this relationship even healthy?
Final Thought
Ignoring someone shouldn’t be your first move—but if they’re taking you for granted, sometimes less attention = more attraction.
Use it wisely. If they still don’t notice, maybe they never will.
Would you try this tactic? Or do you prefer direct communication? 💬
