First dates are like lukewarm coffee. Knowing what to say makes first dates easier. So many people ask, how to keep a first date light, easy, and flirty?
First dates are scary. You want light and fun but not be friend zoned. It should be flirty but not awkward. How to find a happy medium on a first date?
Politics and religion? Family and exes?
First date Do's:
Not all will work. There’s no perfect first-date conversation formula. Some subjects and things can make awkward moments less awkward.
Choose what interests you, then proceed.
1. Be polite.
Not saying “please” and “thank you” can turn people off. Thanking your date for holding the door or your waiter or bartender is nice. Even when not on a date, be polite.
2. Amuse them.
First-date anecdotes are essential. Laughing improves a date, whether you use it to fill an awkward silence or organically. We all want to connect over humour.
3. Deal-breakers?
Personal preference relies on how you feel.. If you want a committed relationship, it’s helpful to state your deal breakers on a first date. Skip these if you’re just having fun.
4. Applaud their enthusiasm.
First-date talk is common. Throw in a few compliments without overdoing it. Your date will appreciate you listening to them talk about a job you don’t understand.
5. Praise your family.
Those with strained families may want to postpone this. But many cherish family, though. Simply saying you’re close to your parents or chatting to your siblings regularly can show your date you value family.
6. Mention date ideas.
If you want a second date, mention this on a first date. Name a restaurant you want to visit or invite them to a movie starring their favorite actor.
7. Ask their history.
This question can be deep. Fun is possible. Discuss braces, uncomfortable teen shopping, and nostalgic themes like cartoons and 90s confectionery so you can laugh together.
8. Discuss your childhood ambitions.
Since work conversations can become interviews, talking about your dream can be refreshing. It can lead to future talks. Do they plan to work? This is another fantastic method to get to know your date. Reminiscing might help you determine compatibility.
9. Tell the truth.
Meaning? After a date, you usually know if you want to see the individual again. Say you’ll meet again. Same if you don’t want to see them anymore. You needn’t reject them outright. But avoid saying I’ll call or I can’t wait. Why lie?
First-date don't:
When you ramble about your ex, that’s a red flag. Your date might believe you’re still hung up on your ex and critical. If you can’t limit ex discussion, avoid it.
Prepare.
A few talking points are usually helpful to have on hand for a first date. Particularly on an awkward date.
Have a few questions or tales that have worked in the past. This should give you some first-date conversation ideas. Change these items to fit your personality and style to get a second date.
With these key points, hopefully, you now know how to keep a first date light, easy, and flirty.